Its Hubby and my 4th wedding anniversary today. (Please forgive the poor grammar. I'm quite certain that 'Hubby and my' is incorrect, but I couldn't seem to find the appropriate sentence structure. Any suggestions from writers out there?! lol!)
This morning he got up while I was having my morning tea. Normally he sleeps in since being a freelance artist he works till 2 or 3 in the morning. He gave me a big kiss and presented me with an anniversary gift (which we DON'T usually do....usually just dinner and cards). I've been collecting pottery for about a year now and am trying to convert my day to day dishes a piece at a time to handmade artisan pottery. I've got a lovely start on the collection with some goblets, mugs, cups and bowls. The nice thing about pottery is that it doesn't have to be all 'matchy matchy' which I hate. So, Hubs got me 1 lovely large dinner plate, and 2 stunning 'lunch size' plates. I just love them!
So we had a nice morning lingering over tea and talking about his pottery hunt adventure. I ended up being about 10 minutes late for work, but I didn't really care. It was so nice.
I'm so happy to be so in love with my husband. I can't imagine ever growing weary of talking to him. He is my favorite person in the world.
Tonight we go out for a nice dinner. Prepaid, actually, thanks to the magic of a 'Living Social' deal. (I love WagJag, Groupon and Living Social! I'll never pay full price for a haircut or a facial again!!).
Then we go home and prepare for our weekend away with friends. Looking very forward to it.
Its nice to think about stuff OTHER than IF for a while. Its kind of like finally exhaling.
Hugs all.
~SCS
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Thursday, August 25, 2011
Wednesday, August 24, 2011
Who gets to love and parent a child?
Friends of our family, who I have known since I was probably about 8 years old, are expecting.
The announcement came over facebook which seems to be the norm these days.
They are wonderful people & will make great parents to this, their second child.
I let my mother know, who has recently been brought into the loop on our IF struggles. I could see her look at me, anticipating that I might be upset by it. Now, my brother's wife is currently pregnant - a month away from delivering my nephew, their second child. I am thrilled for them and of course I get to be a doting aunt!
So why the 'tentative' response from my mother when it came to our friend...? I think its this:
Our friend is gay.
This got me thinking...should my response as a woman struggling to become a mother be one of anger and resentment when I hear of a gay couple becoming pregnant via IVF or through adoption or surrogacy? Should I be wailing "why do they get to be parents and not me?! They can't even do it naturally!". Well....so far, neither can I, so...
But at least I'm MEANT to be able to do it naturally, right?
Maybe. Maybe not. The Jury is still out on that one.
I understand my mother's trepidation about how I might react considering what we are going through. Mom is happy for them, but sad for me....and maybe this will be her reaction to every pregnancy announcement that comes before my hopeful one.
I've thrown this around in my brain and my heart a lot over the last couple of days....and I'm NOT resentful. Not any more so than I am about any other pregnancy announcement I hear these days (and I don't think I'd even call that emotion 'resentment'.....its more of a bitter-sweet feeling...happy a baby is coming, sad its not mine).
We all have love to give - why would their love be considered any less worthy than anyone else's?
They've got a lucky baby on the way!
One day, I too will be able to give my love as a parent to my child. And when that day comes they will be so happy for me!
Hugs
~SCS
The announcement came over facebook which seems to be the norm these days.
They are wonderful people & will make great parents to this, their second child.
I let my mother know, who has recently been brought into the loop on our IF struggles. I could see her look at me, anticipating that I might be upset by it. Now, my brother's wife is currently pregnant - a month away from delivering my nephew, their second child. I am thrilled for them and of course I get to be a doting aunt!
So why the 'tentative' response from my mother when it came to our friend...? I think its this:
Our friend is gay.
This got me thinking...should my response as a woman struggling to become a mother be one of anger and resentment when I hear of a gay couple becoming pregnant via IVF or through adoption or surrogacy? Should I be wailing "why do they get to be parents and not me?! They can't even do it naturally!". Well....so far, neither can I, so...
But at least I'm MEANT to be able to do it naturally, right?
Maybe. Maybe not. The Jury is still out on that one.
I understand my mother's trepidation about how I might react considering what we are going through. Mom is happy for them, but sad for me....and maybe this will be her reaction to every pregnancy announcement that comes before my hopeful one.
I've thrown this around in my brain and my heart a lot over the last couple of days....and I'm NOT resentful. Not any more so than I am about any other pregnancy announcement I hear these days (and I don't think I'd even call that emotion 'resentment'.....its more of a bitter-sweet feeling...happy a baby is coming, sad its not mine).
We all have love to give - why would their love be considered any less worthy than anyone else's?
They've got a lucky baby on the way!
One day, I too will be able to give my love as a parent to my child. And when that day comes they will be so happy for me!
Hugs
~SCS
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